《My daughter in 2026》 Hotly discussed: Don’t get stuck in labels when communicating with your children

The phrase “unqualified mother” made Zhang Jiaqi and his mother Xiao Yingjie in My Girl 2026 a hot search topic.What was originally a discussion about education and communication methods soon became mixed with labels, speculation and extreme remarks.

The grievances expressed by Zhang Jiaqi should be seriously responded to.The audience's discussion of specific words and deeds in the program also has practical significance.But when criticism turns into personal humiliation, rumors or siege, the issues that really need to be seen in the mother-daughter relationship can easily lose focus.

Conflicts in parent-child communication are not unique to this family.In 2019, the China Youth Daily Social Survey Center and the Questionnaire Network conducted a survey of 2,001 respondents, and 75.4“ felt that their parents were too strong; among them, refusal to communicate and strong desire to control were the two main manifestations, accounting for 55.2” and 53.3“ respectively.In the follow-up survey in 2024, 63.3” of the young people surveyed believed that parents' lack of respect for their children's opinions and being arbitrary were the primary reasons for their resentment, and 50“ were resentful that they interfered too much in their personal lives.

Behind these numbers are patterns of interaction such as refusing to listen, communicating forcefully, and blurring boundaries.The program puts long-avoided topics in front of the camera: the daughter expresses her feelings, the mother hears her doubts, and both parties finally have the opportunity to know how the other understands the relationship.Conversation may be accompanied by conflict and may not immediately lead to reconciliation, but understanding each other's feelings will allow you to continue to face the problem.

The observational variety show also presents samples from different families.Some are good at expressing, while others are accustomed to silence; some parents are willing to listen, while others have a strong desire to control and have blurred boundaries with their children.Viewers can look back on their own lives through these differences and identify whether they are repeating certain generational habits.

Simplifying complex family dilemmas into who to support and who to oppose, it is easy for public sentiment to draw conclusions for the parties concerned.Hot-button chasing may also amplify opposition and introduce unverified information.Criticism should focus on the harm caused by a specific behavior and what habits of interaction can be changed, rather than putting a permanent label on a person.

The lack of emotional companionship and the intergenerational transmission of suppressive education need to be faced squarely.Adult children can establish their own boundaries in life, and parents need to learn how to express love and concern.”I have paid so much for you% and cannot replace listening to your feelings.

If family education guidance, psychological counseling and intergenerational communication courses are more popular, more families will receive help.When the media presents such topics, they should also reduce labeling, verify specific facts, and leave room for the complex situation of the parties involved.

The heat on the show will eventually pass, and mother and daughter still get along off camera.When discussing parent-child relationships, it is worth preserving those specific relationships that can be repaired: someone is willing to express their grievances, and someone is beginning to hear words they have not heard before.